Adoption in the most recognized public form is the legal acceptance of the responsibilities for a child or pet and that includes providing a home and incorporating them into their families.
As a child of adoption, I can say that it is not always a perfect picture. It can be a wonderful thing, provided that the motives of the parents adopting are really doing it for the child's best interest. It depends on whether or not the focus is truly on the child's best interest or on the selfishness of the parent's desire to have a family, no matter what, or to look good in the eyes of society as having taken in a disadvantaged child. Sometimes people think that what they have to offer, materially or emotionally is for the child's good, when in fact it can be just the opposite. The child is coming from a place of true pure innocence, the adults are the one's that for whatever reasons, create the problems.
Here is a quote from Abraham-Hicks to take into consideration when adopting or raising any child:
"The child is thinking, and receiving vibrational thought from you on the day that he enters your environment. That is the reason that beliefs are transmitted so easily from parent to child, from parent to child, from parent to child. The child is vibrationally receiving your fears, your beliefs, even without your spoken word... If you want to do that which is of greatest value for your child, give thought only to that which you want, and your child will receive only those wanted thoughts."
--- Abraham
Excerpted from "The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham" # 179
A child will remember 1 negative thought and action regardless of the hundreds of positive ones from their childhood, so always be willing to be positive with your children.
Fear based forms of discipline such as control and guilt only serve to shut the child down....do you really want to treat the child like an animal?
If you have thoughts of adopting a child, or even in raising your living children now, I challenge you to really ask yourself what is your true belief and reason to adopt a child or pet in this world into your own? Take a look down the road 10, 15, 20, 15 years down the road and see that child in it's adult form. How have you helped them? What are you doing to do your part to make them a better person, to help them learn and grow? Are you really willing to invest the time and yourself to do this? Look at your personality types, are you really the type of person who can selflessly give to help another? Does your ego allow you to be wrong at times or do you always have to be right and in control? Do you think you are so right you have to make others decisions for them? Do you think you have to tell them what to think, dress and act like to make them better and to be a better reflection of you? Are you able to provide the college education you swore that you would when you filled out the initial adoption paperwork? Do you really have the financial means to take care of the child in a suitable way that you swore to? What are your thoughts surrounding discipline and how do you discipline? Is it through fear based models such as control or guilt to get others to do what you want them to? Will you allow that child to embrace and develop a relationship with their culture if they are from another country, and their own personality? Or, would you force them to live with your beliefs, your way of thinking only? Is your life really about you and how they fit in? Or, can you be open to really allow them to fit in and provide all the nurturing and caring without passing it off to the babysitters? Can you let go when you need to? Can you support them in finding their birth parents should they desire so? Are you open or closed? Giving or selfish? Fearless or fearful?
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